Modern Etiquette: Navigating Social Graces in 2025
- Poised & Proper
- Dec 22
- 3 min read
Okay, so etiquette isn’t what it used to be. Gone are the days when it was all stiff rules and fancy tea cups. Today? It’s about being polished, considerate, and confident; even when texting a Gen Z colleague, replying to a Slack, or sliding into a professional DM. And yes, I teach all of this in my adult digital courses and even in my K–8 curriculum because social skills matter at every age.
Here’s how to navigate modern etiquette without losing your mind or your style.
1. Digital Communication: Texts, DMs, and the Soft Text Culture
Gen Z (and honestly, lots of adults too) live in the “soft text” era; short, polite, sometimes ambiguous texts. Here’s how to play it right:
Be clear, polite, and timely: If someone messages you, reply within 24 hours. Avoid leaving “…” hanging or ghosting, they notice.
Soft text tone: Use emojis sparingly to convey tone, but don’t overdo it. A simple 🙂 or 👏 is enough.
When to call: Texts are great for quick questions. But sometimes a phone call is better, especially if it’s urgent or sensitive.
Voicemails: Rare but still relevant. Keep it concise: state your name, number, reason, and repeat your number. No rambling.
Pro tip: If it’s a follow-up from a meeting or networking event, always confirm the day, date, and time in your message. Nothing kills professionalism faster than mixed-up schedules.
2. Inclusivity and Awareness
Etiquette today is also about not accidentally offending someone. Inclusivity isn’t a trend—it’s a must.
Pronouns matter: Always ask or use what’s shared in professional profiles.
Dietary and cultural awareness: If you’re hosting or ordering lunch, check for allergies, restrictions, or preferences.
Personal space: In 2025, elbow bumps, fist bumps, or air high-fives are all fair game—read the room.
3. Networking and Professional Presence
Networking is the ultimate social skill playground, and modern etiquette gives you an edge.
Follow-ups: Send a note the day after meeting someone. Confirm the exact day, date, and time if you’re scheduling a call or coffee. Precision shows care.
Digital networking: LinkedIn is gold, but don’t spam. Personalize connection requests (“Loved hearing your insights at X event. Would love to connect!”).
Text vs. call balance: Text for logistics, call for meaningful conversation. If you leave a voicemail, make it short, clear, and repeat your info.
4. Blending Traditional Manners With Modern Life
Some things never change:
Politeness: Always use “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.”
Active listening: Even in Zoom calls, nod, respond, and don’t multitask. In person, put the phone away and stop typing on your computer when someone is talking to you.
Introductions matter: Know names, say them correctly, and follow up politely.
Modern etiquette is about taking the timeless rules and applying them thoughtfully in today’s digital and social world.
5. Real-Life Action Steps
Before sending a text/email: check your tone, clarity, and accuracy.
Confirm dates, times, and names when scheduling anything.
For calls: practice a short, clear voicemail script.
During events: mix digital awareness with face-to-face manners.
Final Thoughts
Want to level up your social skills or teach them to your kids? My K–8 curriculum includes modules on digital manners, social interactions, and networking for children. For adults, my digital etiquette courses give step-by-step guidance on emails, texting, calls, and in-person social skills, so you never feel unsure in any setting.