There is a specific kind of gut-punch that did not really exist a generation ago, and now it happens all the time. You open your phone and there it is. The group you used to be part of, on a trip you were not invited to. Everyone smiling. Everyone tagged. And you, finding out about it from the outside like a stranger. It stings. It stings even more if you are pretty sure you did not do anything wrong. And it stings in a confusing way if some quiet part of you also knows you w

There is a fantasy that comes bundled with going away to college, and it goes like this. You walk into your dorm room, meet your roommate, and instantly gain a built-in best friend. You stay up late talking about everything, borrow each other's clothes, and end up in each other's weddings someday. Sometimes that actually happens, and it is wonderful. But here is the truth that will save your entire first year. You are not moving in with a built-in best friend. You are moving