You know the sound. The cabinet closed a little too hard. The long sigh aimed at the middle of the room. The “it's fine” that means nothing is fine. The word said just quietly enough that you cannot be totally sure you were meant to hear it, and just loudly enough that you did. We have all been on both ends of this. And I want to say something that may land uncomfortably, because it is worth saying plainly. Muttering under your breath is not the polite, restrained, taking-the