The doorbell rings. In comes the aunt you see twice a year, coat still on, arms already wide open. “Come give your auntie a big hug!” And your child, who was a perfectly social human being thirty seconds ago, slides behind your leg like a cat who just heard the vacuum. Now every adult in the entryway is looking at you. The aunt is waiting. Your child is attached to your knee. And you have about two seconds to decide what kind of parent you are going to be in front of your ent